Marriage is HARD. Bold prayers #21 - Can't get comfortable.

So, while we were  in Wisconsin, each night  was a race to see which girl would go to bed first.  Of course....they would fall asleep LATE and be the first ones UP in the AM.  This particular morning, Taylor was able to get some 'loving' shots between the two sisters.   Thus the photo....

I thought about this and how our siblings can bring the BEST out of us and the WORST.  Having someone with the same genes does not necessarily mean that we think alike or even....maybe like each other.  

I am VERY fortunate in  having 8 siblings and there are a few that I am closer too...cause we have common interests and we just 'click'  but when we have to pull together as a family for whatever  reason....I know that I know...I can count on them.  

Being able to COUNT on a spouse is also a very good thing...but when you can't...it is VERY hard. As our spouses should bring the BEST out of us..not our WORST!  

SJ is battling teething and an ear infection.  In fact, the doctor on Monday stated she probably never got over the ear infection from two weeks ago,  so another antibiotic was prescribed.  Anyway, when she would wake up in a strange place ( in Wisconsin ) I would quickly go to her and get that 'paci' into her mouth...which worked  to satisfy her most times, but sometimes I just  needed to pick her up.  

She is LONG.  
Tall!  
  You can't sit with her in a rocker and try and rock her when she wants to spread her legs out...so you must stand and 'bounce'.  At times....this can be VERY tiring!!   


It was one of those moments, sometime during VACATION in Wisconsin that I just could not contort or situate my body into the RIGHT position so that she could be comfortable.  As I prayed and spoke to God in those moments to help me.....  and eventually, I did find that sweet spot where she settled and fell back asleep.  After that moment, I found myself thinking..... 

 Does God do this... well...does He? 
 Does God contort and move Himself so that we become comfortable? 
                                  ......um...nope.  Not really.   No.  He is God.  He does not change.  He is perfect.

Do we,  as wives and husbands....move and contort ourselves...our thoughts....our actions...to make another happy?    .....um....yep...we do.  

  Sometimes is it necessary and it is extending grace and mercy, but often it is to just......keep someone happy and content.  

There are women and men that are TIRED of trying to make the other one comfortable.    That is where the prayer comes in today -- 


Lord, for the wife or husband reading this today -- may they hear You and know that You see them and that You are AT work within their marriage.  
Lord, for  the wife that is just plain sick and tired of 'contorting' and making it easy for the other...strengthen her.  Speak to her or him.
Lord, for the wife or husband that knows that they know...they need to bend or 'contort' a bit so that mercy is extended and grace is perceived and received.... God...ONLY You can show them and speak to them in such a way that  Your goodness is seen.  

Lord, for the many marriages that my husband and I see and pray for -- may there be a section of warrior wives and husbands that know....their purpose and their place....to stand in that gap while their 'better' half is being totally stupid or lied to.  May they feel Your presence today Lord....in a new way.  

Hold them Lord... show them HOW there is a battle in the heavenlies and that YOU will win.  

And Lord, for those spouses that NEED to be uncomfortable right now....may they continue to be miserable until they GET right with YOU...IN Jesus name.....Amen.