This series of blogs- continues.
This series is being written for children -- adult children. This series is not necessarily written for my children and yet it may be. And it is being written for the parents of adult children.
So with that -- here is the 4th one.
Sometimes it is very hard to make a choice. Chocolate cake or Cheesecake. If I am at Longhorn Steakhouse - it is the Chocolate Stampede. If I am at the Cheesecake Factory it would be the cheesecake but then - which ONE?
God's Word says: Matthew 7:13-14
"Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few."
As a parent of two grown children it can become difficult to watch them make choices that you feel within your innermost being-- are wrong. And it is difficult to watch them make choices that you would not of made -- whether with good outcomes or just different outcomes. It can be difficult to see them struggle with finances because of poor choices.
It can also be difficult when you just want to celebrate or hang with them and they are leading their own lives. I praise God that our children WANT to hang with us -- mind you, NOT all the time, but we do enjoy our time together. It is a blessing!
I am the oldest of 9 children my mother and father 'had' beginning back in 1966. There are nine of us. At times over my past 50 years....some of my siblings have been EASIER to get along with while others rub me the wrong way. Moving 1400 miles away certainly can help the matter or bring distance -- but early on, I realized as my siblings grew into adults -- I wasn't going to be their BEST friend nor would they seek my advice. In a way -- I was a parent to them all those years ago so I had a little practice as my own children grew up and moved out....I couldn't control nor always make their choices for them. And, it brought pure pleasure when some of them did seek advice or want my opinion.
Some parents never stop -- they interfere, share their opinions, make decisions and eventually it causes distance, hurt, and maybe even estrangement.
Proverbs 14.12 says: There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.
As a parent, this verse speaks volumes -- when we see our children make choices we know are wrong....
Proverbs 19.21 says: Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.
Even this verse, being a parent as we watch and wait for our adult children to LEARN the hard way....we pray, we believe, and we show love....
Proverbs 16.9 says: The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.
Truly, when I read this verse - I pray, Lord, establish his steps...establish her steps... may their steps line up with Your Word!
And finally: Proverbs 3. 5-6 states: Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
If your children - young, small, teens, and adults would fully grasp and understand this past verse -- we are parents would be peaceful! Right?