Marriage prayers #10

Being married 10 years is a pretty BIG accomplishment.
Being married 20 is again - a major accomplishment.
Being married 30+ years -- is rare.
And so therefore celebrating a 40 year or 50 year anniversary is indeed a special event.


I got to thinking about the marriages that have some how ...remained steadfast and faithful...even up to 40+ years.


Why are so many failing?

Is it because we are in a 'disposable' generation right now?
Is it because divorce is too easy?
Is it because FB is where we get our affirmation?
Is it because we just don't want to get on our knees and wait on God?



Today's prayer is for THOSE marriages that have somehow escaped the 'crisis'.  Maybe they escaped intentionally and have been with God since Day 1.
Maybe they escaped cause Satan left them alone -- as he knew they were an 'easy prey'.
Maybe they escaped simply by the constant prayers of grandparents and parents...  only God knows.


Today  -- if your marriage is rocky or solid... this prayer is for yours.  

Lord, in your presence is where both of us want to be and need to be.  Lord,  you will judge the living and the dead - help me never to judge my man and allow him to have his own Jesus and his own Holy Spirit.  Lord, I can't be that for him.  Lord, help me to not preach the word to him and then live another way.  Lord, continue to show me wisdom through your word and as you show me great patience, help me to extend it.  Lord, for the day to day stuff..... I work too -- help him to see that I need help with supper with the kids..and with whatever..

Lord, help him to see that he is the other 1/2 of me and we are only united as one with HIM.  Lord, may neither of us turn from Your Word or what You are revealing to us.  May we both endure the HARD for the sake of Your Good.  Lord, may we keep our heads in all situations and do the work you have called us to do.  Lord, may we each be a poured out drink offering to each other.  

This photo has great significance for me, it was taken August 4, 2011 when we decided to give our marriage totally to God... house had sold and the awkwardness of reconciliation began -- But God...  BUT God Won! 

Lord, may I keep my mouth shut when needed.  May I show grace all the time and mercy all the time but mostly.....may I love him for WHO he is not WHAT I want him to be.  

Lord, this prayer is being written for ALL today and yet - it is my heart too...  Lord, for the desires of our hearts...for mine, for his... Lord, for our children, friends, and family - may we always be a light in the darkness.  Check us oh Lord, and reveal ANY sin.  Reveal any pride.   Lord, that I will be the help mate or help meet to my man, may he always look at me and see YOU in me.  But also Lord, may I look at him and see that sexy man I saw ...some 30 years ago that made my heart flutter -- the eros love...the agape love...each type Lord....  it comes from YOU.  

In Jesus name, amen.  

A Humbled Simple Lamb who loves her Shepherd -- Boundless Grace

God does mighty things.
God heals.
God restores.
God refreshes.


It is amazing to watch and see HIM move and work in the lives of women.
It is amazing to watch and see HIM move in the fullness of His Grace.. His Mercy..and in the Spirit.
It is amazing to watch a beloved daughter of the most High God, get rid of years of unforgiveness and walk in freedom.

God wins.

I used to call myself a 'dumb sheep'.  As I just must rely on HIM all the time.
But the Lord had me change that term...  to 'simple'.

One of the definations of simple is unalloyed.
Alloyed means combination or blend a mixture.

I am unalloyed if I am not with God.
I am just a simple person that NEEDS God.

I am a lamb that had wandered off and got caught in the thicket of sin and my Shepherd left the 99 and found me.... picked me up, broke my legs and held me until I was healed and could walk on my own and I never strayed away again.


I am a humbled, simple lamb --

IN AWE of God's provision.
In AWE of God's orchestrating.
In AWE of the fact - HE will do what HE is going to do and will move ALL obstacles out of the way.
In AWE  of the fact, that with each person I get the honor to pray with -- HE teaches me more.
In AWE of the fact, that in spitie of adverstiy - His plan continues.  That NOT one would perish.


God has boundless Grace for each and every one of us.
I thank my leadership team -- and the intercessory team -- as together HE loved on 42 women this past weekend and our lives are changed - forever.

If you are interested in being at the next God Encounter Weekend, contact me.

- in awe,
- humbled, Michelle

Prayer for a wife in a HARD Spot - #9

When God moves a mountain....

I understand and realize that sometimes it seems impossible.  "He will never change.".  I hear that and I get that.  But, let me ask you this...."have you changed?".

I think people can change.
I believe that through God, a man can change.

I believe that no matter what -- God has to be the center and the 'control' for our men.

But...  a BIG factor is whether HE loves Jesus or not.
When he does not love Jesus or... no...when he does not LOVE Jesus...  it is quite impossible to believe that he will change.

BUT God...   God loves him still.  I know that is hard to believe, but it is true.  If  He, God,  will love me through my idolatry and allow me the time to get it right with him...I must allow that time for my husband.

The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.   2 Peter 3.9


So, what do you say to a beautiful wife  that has come home to face a man - drunk again... the house a total mess.. and then...to top it off, he becomes abusive and hurtful???


Well, I would call the law.
Or I would leave.
Or, I would.....

but first, I would call upon my Heaven Father that is in control to move ...move him or move me... or move....  and SHOW me the answer.  

I don't believe the Lord tells anyone, "yes, You are allowed to leave this marriage".

I do believe that the Lord will provide a way to move forward.

If he won't get sober, if he won't get help and you feel unsafe, you must get away from him.

 Pray for a few days and ask him to leave.

Pray for a few days and look for a place to move to.

Pray for a few days and seek God for the next move.

Meanwhile.... as Jesus says, "go and sin no  more".
 Don't use the situation as an excuse to grieve the Holy Spirit or God.
Watch your mouth, guard what comes out.
 Remember, he is still the father of your children.
 Or... if he isn't,  allow Your children to see you extend grace and mercy even to one that does not deserve it.

 It is important to know and realize this revealation... God loves him as much as He loves you.  

God's Word says,  The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.   2 Peter 3.9

So,   prayer if for a wife in a HARD spot.  


Lord, Your Word says, that if we commit our work to YOU...our plans will be established.  Lord, a beloved daughter of yours is in deep need and pain right now.  She has a husband that continues to abuse himself and a situation.  Lord, another has a husband that won't get out of bed.  Lord, and another has one that just exists in her house but has left the marriage LONG ago.    AND Lord, there is another that loves her man deeply and she knows he needs You and he has no want or desire to get to know you.  So, therefore, basically -- Lord, ALL of these MEN need YOU.  Lord, open their eyes...   Ok Lord, I will say it...  DO What is ever necessary to bring them to a crisis of faith...but don't kill them.  For the hardest of marriages,  remove the husband so she can move forward and stand before you one day and say...   I tried.  Lord, for the one who is struggling to see  ANY good in her husband, remind her - YOU are her husband.  And Lord, for the wife who is ready to give up or give in... Lord, I pray she would remember to seek you -- as I know, You will  ask her to wait ON YOU...  and You will build her strength as she waits on You.  

Lord, may this bring comfort to her - 
I am but a humbled simple lamb - 
IN Jesus name, Amen

Marriage Prayer #8

Miracles.  

The Lord continues to teach me and change me.   I can freely say, I am not 'bound' by the timing of 40 days.  Let me explain.  In the past, God has asked me to write some prayer blogs for women and for marriages.  EAch time.... it was 40 days worth and I was almost 90% faithful to make sure they were posted -- sometimes even at the expense of my sleep and my man.  However,  in the past year -- HE is so maturing me and reminding me constantly that I can't get affirmation from this blog, FB, nor even my man ..it must ALL come from HIM. 

Today is Friday -- I am headed to Titusville to walk with God through A God Encounter Weekend with 47 others.  Already the Enemy has begun an onslaught of banter and crud in my ears.  Just to be real, just last night an honest chat with my husband -- can quickly be used by the darkness to try and return me to a pit.  However, God wins.    With much prayer and intercession -- I move forward, one day at a time.   Marriage is God's way of showing ALL of us.... well, it is as 'close' to the love JESUS has for us and why he died on that cross...for an unselfish task....

A marriage is indeed a  union ....but it must be connected and established by our God.  If it was not established by HIM...it still can be...!!   Anyway.  I am getting off topic. 

I believe my marriage is a miracle.  I have been asking God over and over -- at 'what point' did it turn... and HE has been showing me many events and such, but basically -- the turning point was when BOTH of us were in love with God.  BOTH of us were seeking the healing touch of Jesus and BOTH of us were getting our whispers from Holy Spirit and not the enemy. 

So...  with that... 


I pray today for a miracle in YOUR marriage.  I am unsure  WHO is reading this -- but -- miracles happen.  Period. 

As I was saying -- I am no longer 'bound' by a time constraint.  AS...  I should
be at Day #10 or 11, but I have lost track -- cause I have placed God first... my husband 2nd...and right now -- HIS  Encounter weekend is 3rd...after this weekend...my kids will go back in that spot..LOL.  But, I want HIS best for everyone that attends, but I want HIS best for me...  I want to be HIS best..and allow HIM to use me in whatever capacities He says. 


And... another photo:  

When I knew my blog would be about miracles...I had to add in this photo - as THESE two girls are walking miracles.  Each has their own story...each has done mighty and great works already in the name of JESUS.......but HE has SO much more for each of them....

 They have just begun -- 
They and their husbands will reach many for HIS Kingdom and in HIS time. 

They along with their circle of influence  -- well, I will just say it... I believe they will see the coming of Christ -- and that makes my heart sing. 

For that matter -- I believe my children won't have to plan a furneral...as I believe HE is coming -- soon. 

No worries... I am not marking a date as I know what scripture says, but ladies...and gentlemen - look around. 

We are in a time of great wonder and great darkness...

We are in a time -- like no other. 
We are in a time -- where -- we must know that we know -- where are we headed. 

In this day and age -- marriages are the MOST attacked...why -- cause like I started with -- God's design for marriage was HIS plan -- for us to understand true self-less love. 

Lord, I will end with this -- I know eight women right now that are hanging on... I pray their miracle is VERY close...in Jesus name.  AMEN! 

Happy Mother's Day

Yes, Happy Mother's Day.   This post is coming early.   Happy Mother's Day is the only title that seemed fitting.

I realize I would honor my mother   ( Sandy ) and I love her so --

---- and even my other mother, my mother-n-love            ( Marilyn) but today....I am honoring a new mom in my life. 

The mom of my new son.  Taylor's husband.  Jacob.  

This photo was taken Saturday morning as we arrived in Miami at the Bank United Center, an hour before the Living Proof Live Event was to begin.  I wish I would of snapped a panoramic of the entire view once we started and settled in -- 3000+ women.  ( And there were men there too.)

 In this stadium -- it reminded me of a dream God gave me years ago and it replays in my head  here and there:  I find myself floating up to the heavens.  I can only imagine or what I believe --is a dream of  the Rapture.  I am not going to get dogmatic here -- but each time I have the dream, it seems like rows and rows of people floating up and up and I feel tremendously happy until I realize I can't see 'all' of my kids or someone and then I wake up.    So as I sat at that spot last Saturday morn, and I looked out - I was reminded of that dream.  And I realized I had not had that dream in years so I asked God about that -- its meaning and if He would give it to me again. 

And then, I quickly got distracted and thanked God for allowing me the time and ability to enjoy the weekend with my new friend -- the new mom in my life.    Jacob's mom.  She is also Nic's mom and  Will's wife.   I can put a laugh and chuckle in here ..."we have even slept together now"...

Opps - sorry.  She is so unlike me in many ways and yet SO like me.  But I know, she is a bit more private or reserved - so Kerry, I do apologize for the sleeping reference -- Brendan is the one that has better timing for the humor!

However,  we attended with two other wonderful sisters in Christ and the four of us enjoyed traffic, Dunkin Donuts, and then a supper at 11 pm in the Little Havana area of West Miami.  It certainly was an experience!   All laughs.   All fun.

 Little sleep ...but, what a WORD Beth preached and taught from the book of Samuel.  THAT is for another blog....

This is Happy Mother's Day.

Let me explain.

I so enjoyed getting to know this lady better.  We had a love affair that started last summer.... I say that in jest, cause that is when Brendan and I began to meet both she, Kerry, and her husband Will.  ( Jacob's dad)   Between watching a proposal,  eating wings at a Wing place, and then having stromboli at Bobby's -- these two very kind, generous,  and loving people became instant friends and family.   They are fun!  

And, if you read my stuff -- the wedding was last September, the 2nd one was this past February and now -- we do life together as often as possible.

Please EXCUSE the blurriness of the photo -- I was shaking and trying my best to get a good clear one, but I wanted to capture the emotion as well.    Because GOD blessed me with a perfect 360 moment and the emotion of it  - it something that I wanted to capture. 

At the END of Beth's events -- she does a commissioning statement and imparts a prayer on the women that have joined her for that bible study or that weekend event.   I have stood ONLY ONE other time before doing a commissioning statement LIVE like that one  last Saturday.

   I have done others  in bible studies, written some, given some,  and even  grabbed the hands of another and recited it ----which were all very  powerful but not like this one! 

The  FIRST  one I did was back in April of 2010.  Actually,  April 23, 2010,  at a church in Vero Beach.  I grabbed the hands of the beautiful lady in front of me and it was either Carla Marie...or it was Brooke Weigand..   right now - I can't remember.   I can see Brooke in my memory but Carla Marie was there too!

 As I stood there and we 'imparted' wisdom to each other and a prayer -- I left that Simulcast ( So Long Insecurity, you have been a BAD Friend to me) and was changed and pumped up.  You see, I had been in counsel, seeking help,  as I knew something was wrong within my marriage and I was trying my best to figure it out and love a man who I knew deep down - was lost, separated from God, and running -- and with No 'Eros love ' for me.....  He felt only "phileo"...and I was determined it was only a mid-life crisis and that soon, once he fell back in love with Jesus and His Agape love...his eyes would open and see ME!    However,  that did not play out that way.   Much more transpired in 2010...2011... and 2012...  

As I said, I went to a few other events and watch Beth on TV -- but that was the FIRST LIVE Commissioning Statement Exercise and then .... almost 6 years later, I am standing, face to face with this beautiful women, with a sea of others and as I grabbed her hands - it HIT.

I was overcome.  I could tell Beth was giving instructions for the exercise, but I had heard them before, I just bawled.  Mascara running, nose beginning to SNOT up - bawled.  As I heard Beth say, "this will never happen again"..... and it won't.

As I looked at Kerry, I could clearly see a woman WHO had prayed for her son for 28 years....to have the God ordained and appointed WIFE that would compliment him.

As I looked at Kerry, I knew I had prayed 24+ years for a daughter  and I prayed for THAT husband, that was being raised in a healthy Christian home that he would be the best man to compliment her....

And I realized HOW God had orchestrated  THIS way before I was even a twinkle in the eye of my mom and dad.


 THIS was a part of the DESTINY that Satan tried to DESTROY when he set his fangs into our family --
THIS is what HE was trying to stop.
Satan did not know what God knew...but He could tell -- we had favor.
Now...it was not all Satan...it was our own choices that placed us in a pit back in 2009-2010-2011...  but  GOD won.

So - Happy Mother's Day to the women that God created to give birth to my new son.

Thank you Denise who blessed me with the 'ticket' to see Beth Moore for my birthday... Thank you to Linda ...who gifted her tickets to Cassie and "G".  And thank you Diane ..who gifted her ticket to Linda...   And Thank you Kerry for saying Yes! And thank you Crystal for taking the photo!!   


Thank you God -- for I set off to be ministered to and I was.
I was blessed beyond what I expected.

Next weekend there are 48 women heading to Titusville for another God Encounter Weekend.
God has imparted a vision on Me and I will obey -- as difficult as it is to get 'women' to all agree ...nothing tops the sisterhood of these Encounter Weekends as when God is in the lead...there is not stopping WHAT HE can do. !
I am humbled..   blessed, chosen, accepted, adopted, forgiven and redeemed and I can face my giant...and any other ones that may come my way -- as I have a GIANT Sized faith !!

- michelle

Prayers for a marriage - Day #7

It has been a long day.
I am exhausted. 


If you don't believe we are in the last days... let me share something:  

2 Timothy 3:  1-5 says:

"There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loves of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, loves of pleasure rather than lovers of God -- having a form of godliness but denying its power."  


I will quote Beth Moore --  " I believe in the last days Satan has two primary motivations:  (1) to exact revenge on God by wreaking havoc on His children and (2)  to try to incapacitate the believer's God-given ability to overcome him. "

( From When Godly people do Ungodly things)


Is this your marriage?
Is this what you live with?  

A person without love ?  
A person who is unforgiving?  
A person with no self-control?  


If you are a Christian - you are covered by the blood of the Lamb and in Revelation 12.11 it says, "they overcame by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony".


I know God heals marriages.

However.... sometimes the healing can only come after a severe wounding...and maybe even a separation -- unsure -- but God knows.



For the one this eve...

Dear Beloved -- YOU have to take it to HIM....seek HIM... call upon HIM...meditate on HIS Word and allow Him to  answer -- and then be obedient.  

No one can do it for you.   

God hates divorce, but He loves YOU ....and if you don't feel safe, if you can't even rest in your own home - it is time to do something .....letting God orchestrate that is hard to discern ..but not if you are trusting and seeking HIM.  HE will make a way.  

In Jesus name..AMEN.

Day 6 - Prayers for a marriage --There is HOPE!

A favorite  Jesus Calling Devotional ...states this:

Beloved, this is the day that the Lord has made...As you rejoice in this day of life, it will yield up to you precious gifts and beneficial training.  Walk with Me along the high road of thanksgiving, and you will find delights I have made ready for you....To protect your thankfulness, you must remember that you reside in a fallen world, where blessings and sorrows intermingle freely.  A constant focus on adversity defeats many Christians. ...They walk through a day that is brimming with beauty and brightness, seeing only the grayness of their thoughts.  Neglecting the practice of giving thanks has darkened their minds.  How precious are My children who remember to thank Me at all times.  They can walk through the darkest of days with joy in their hearts because they know that the Light of My Presence is still shining on them.  Rejoice in this day that I have made for you, I am your steadfast Companion.  - God   Psalm 118. 24  and Psalm 116. 17 

It is very hard to stay hopeful when it seems like God has forgotten us.  I have said that...I have felt that God has forgotten me, but praise God I have also lived long enough to know

                            ...that is a LIE from the pit of hell.

God does not forget us.  God never has.  HE knew me..HE knows you...before you were born.  HE knows the number of hairs left on my head and how many will fall out into the drain this evening.

I am posting today to give hope and encouragement --from  God  because....

I want to  remind myself how things are so relative and how the enemy  continues to try and lie and weasel his way into our lives.

And maybe I am posting this --for you...the stranger at the other side of this computer screen that I don't know.

Over the past year, 

I  have reached out to a woman that wants restoration in a marriage.

I prayed with a woman that does not have her kids right with her right now, and her heart is so broken.

I have prayed with several women who are trying to salvage relationships with their children and their husbands.

I have prayed with women that are hopeless and trying their best to hang on.

I have prayed that God would move mountains...

There are so many -- feeling defeated -- 

And I was reminded of MANY other heartbroken people.

I was reminded that we always need to be thankful.

I think it is important to be real and to be aware.  Because of God....there is HOPE and there is light at the end of the tunnel even when we think it can't happen.

It is a very hard concept, but there can be joy in our circumstance.

Tomorrow could be the day the situation turns around....tomorrow could be the day....
Tomorrow could be the day the situation turns around... tomorrow...

I have said this before, there was a time in my life that I would just 'hang on until night time'....then I would pray and go to sleep with my bible on my chest and ask God.."please, tomorrow - could tomorrow be the day I have been waiting for?".   And then tomorrow came, and the day started and by 10 or 11 am that next day - I would find myself saying, "ok God, I guess it WON'T be today ( for my miracle ) so...just get me to bed time......."   And I would look forward to the possibility of the NEXT day...

Literally living from day to day  -- 

God has to be it.

HE has to be our all.

HE allows strife and heartache within out lives - cause HE wants to draw us near  -- HE is getting our attention.

 That was NOT HIS intention but we are in a wicked world and we chose the path, we have that free will....it leads us into temptation and then sin.

It certainly seems  like ALL the others ( around us )  are getting the breaks and the ones who are ARE on their knees seeking God are NOT winning...but hold on dear sister...hold on beloved....YOU are HIS.

Please don't compare your situation with others -- you have no idea, but maybe Satan does not need to mess with them...and he is able to bless then ( Satan can bless people ) cause they are NO threat.

So consider it an honor...that the enemy is seeking to destroy you -- and your dreams and family...cause he knows, God has great plans in the future.

Lisa Bevere says that you are probably being attacked ...cause of WHAT the enemy knows YOU can do for the Kingdom of God in the future -- so he is attacking now.  Don't let him win.

Don't let the enemy tell you God has forgotten you -- HE has not.

Cry out to him.  Demand GOD to show up and move....just make sure that you are RIGHT with him first - confess any sin....make sure YOU have asked HIm into your life and heart, and declare your love for him.

I realize it may be hard to declare your LOve for God...I was unable to really do that for many years...it takes time to trust something that is 'unseen'.  But, if we will...Glory will come.

Hang in there beloved....YOU are deeply loved.  Memorize these verses  below.  Personalize them.

Michelle, be strong and courageous, don't fear..for God is with me and HE won't leave or forsake me.

__________, be strong....

Lord, God.....I am thankful for this day - for the women or men reading this, maythey see HOPE at the end of the tunnel.   Lord for the marriages represented within this list , that they SEE HOPE today! 

Lord, as we continue  these  40 days of prayer, I continue to hold up those sisters in Christ that I am believing and agreeing in prayer with -- that there would be clarity...there would be peace...and a new found relationship - like NONE before.    amen.

God - for some -  they may not have the faith right now to believe there is  LIGHT at the end of the TUNNEL - but I will believe it enough for them -- I will!

Deuteronomy 31:6 ESV 

Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”

Psalm 55:22 ESV / 

Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.