I wrote this back in 2013..... It is needed for another tonight.
I have to share today that my husband said the sweetest thing. It
had to do with a word that I believed God wanted me to share with him.
I felt SO awkward speaking it to him, and I was SO afraid that he would
not receive it seriously...or he would laugh....or he may feel I was
'being his holy spirit'....
It was very personal. And
when I gave him that word, I prefaced it - "don't tell me good or
bad...in fact, say nothing to be about it until tomorrow -- I am too
fragile to hear ANY criticism". That was Saturday.
He honored that.
Now, if I was REALLY sure it was of the Lord... I should of BOLDLY spoke it and let it be right?
Wrong - we must be sensitive to the Holy Spirit, but we are also human.
see some of our therapy was about me judging him and being that 'nag
queen' and being his 'holy spirit'. So you can see why I would be
careful about telling him 'what' to do or think.
is a delicate and fine line between a husband and a wife. We are to be
intimate. We are to be supportive and each others' friends. We can
give each other advice -- But we are also separate people. After one
has been married a long time, it is easy to fall into the trap of being
the 'parent' of a spouse ...instead of being the wife or the husband.
I think there are a lot of marriages where there is not a lot of
respect shown or given. Been there ....working on that!
Anyway, the sweetest thing he said to me was, "chell, I took to heart what you said and at church on Sunday, I .....".
took something I said ...a 'god' thing...and he respected it. He felt
my word ( from God ) was valuable and he respected what I said--- what
God shared with me.
Today I thought of that -- I have
waited to hear that kind of a compliment for over 20+ years...I have. I
have seen that sort of a thing on TV and read about it on blogs and in
articles about good marriages ... but today....God really revealed to
me, again, that HE will rebuild the ancient ruins... ( Isaiah 61 .4)
However, I am reminded that it TAKES time ----sometimes...long times..
So today's prayer is about enduring...to wait...to hold on.
And this never would of happened -- if I had given up. It was never a matter of 'giving up'...it was a matter of listening to what GOD told me to do. HE told me to wait on HIM and wait on him.