I have to share today that my husband said the sweetest thing. It had to do with a word that I believed God wanted me to share with him. I felt SO awkward speaking it to him, and I was SO afraid that he would not receive it seriously...or he would laugh....or he may feel I was 'being his holy spirit'....
It was very personal. And when I gave him that word, I prefaced it - "don't tell me good or bad...in fact, say nothing to be about it until tomorrow -- I am too fragile to hear ANY criticism". That was Saturday.
He honored that.
Now, if I was REALLY sure it was of the Lord... I should of BOLDLY spoke it and let it be right?
Wrong - we must be sensitive to the Holy Spirit, but we are also human.
You see some of our therapy was about me judging him and being that 'nag queen' and being his 'holy spirit'. So you can see why I would be careful about telling him 'what' to do or think.
There is a delicate and fine line between a husband and a wife. We are to be intimate. We are to be supportive and each others' friend. We can give each other advice -- But we are also separate people. After one has been married a long time, it is easy to fall into the trap of being the 'parent' of a spouse ...instead of being the wife or the husband. I think there are a lot of marriages where there is not a lot of respect shown or given. Been there ....working on that!
Anyway, the sweetest thing he said to me was, "chell, I took to heart what you said and at church on Sunday, I .....".
He took something I said ...a 'god' thing...and he respected it. He felt my word ( from God ) was valuable and he respected what I said--- what God shared with me.
Today I thought of that -- I have waited to hear that kind of a compliment for over 20+ years...I have. I have seen that sort of a thing on TV and read about it on blogs and in articles about good marriages ... but today....God really revealed to me, again, that HE will rebuild the ancient ruins... ( Isaiah 61 .4)
However, I am reminded that it TAKES time ----sometimes...long times..
So today's prayer is about enduring...to wait...to hold on.