Really? I mean - THAT is the desire men have right?
Is that not WHY we were created?
Nope -- God created us because it was not healthy for a man to be alone. God uses marriage -- Marriage is a covenant agreement in which a man and a woman are legally and spiritually joined together as husband and wife.
Genesis 2: 24-25 says..."a man will leave his father and mother "-- "and be united to his wife" -- by an act of our will -- there is a bond -- "and they will become ONE flesh" --
Physical oneness is the ultimate consummation of sexual closeness. But we need bonding and to choose to separate from ourselves and be loyal to another.
Matthew 19.6 "they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
Ladies - I am listing this suggestions in love. We fulfill our husband's desires by admiration - praise his positive character traits and respect the burden of his responsibility. ( proverbs 31.23)
Support them - provide a peaceful home, atmosphere, and manage the home....if you both work, then share the chores. ( proverbs 31.27)
We were created to CRAVE companionship - he does too. Develop a mutual interest and learn to talk to him about his work and what he does.
Be attractive. ( proverbs 31.25) Develop inner beauty that earns respect and display inner strength regardless of outward circumstances. But also -- open YOUR eyes. What are you attracted to? So...what does he see?
Sexual Fulfillment (1 Corinthians 7. 4-5) Talk to each other about your sexual desires and give assurance that your husband is sexually adequate.
I found this list above and I had to take a deep breath and ask myself...am I fulfilling his desires?
I will be brief - my husband JUST came to the kitchen and reminded me I needed to come to bed - but this was a burning on my heart....These last 10 days - I am going to be specific and pray for some general but yet specific areas in marriages.
So with that, I will just add a little personal touch:
As I said, I went over that list above about ways to fulfill your husband's desires and checked out the scripture links and asked God -- how am I doing?
I do admire my husband - now. Seriously, I always did but I let that become an idol -- long story, different blog, but now, I make sure that he knows what I do admire.
I do support him and he supports me but when a marriage is tested -- you figure out why there is tension and we both are in a place now where we know HOW to get readjusted.
We had to have help - a professional counselor that TAUGHT us how to communicate.
We also had to come up with some NEW ways to have companionship -- got a Harley -- now we are both going to the gym. It is SO easy to get complacent and in a rut..in EVERY area of our marriage -- if you get my hidden meaning -- be creative.
And I will be honest - our therapist was also a sexologist - just saying -- godly counsel well blended in BIG time and if you read this blog often - you understand that our marriage has been tested and we did survive - it was a miracle and I am so thankful...but tonight -- someone reading this ...
needs to pray this prayer and maybe rethink her marriage -- and admire his husband or find something new to do with him....etc, etc.